Am I Idealist?

My friends, family, and colleagues probably appreciate me for both my high standards and commitment to excellence. They're also apt to know that when they come to I with a problem, they can trust me to be fair and objective. As an Idealist, I likely to be seen as a wise and balanced person with strong integrity.

This means that compared to the eight other Enneagram types,I have a strong sense of what's right and wrong. In fact, I someone who is typically committed to doing the right thing and making sure me as good a person as me can be — no matter what situation arises.

"Don't compromise yourself. You're all you've got."

Janis Joplin

As a Type 1, The Idealist, I an individual who sees how good things truly can be. This sense of optimism and discerning nature has probably helped I develop quite a strong set of values. However for me, it's not simply a question of having high morals; it's about having predetermined standards for each aspect of mylife and setting the bar high. More than most people, I not only appreciate it when the things and people around are the best that they can be — me expect them to be. In fact, attaining I ideals and surrounding myself with others who do the same helps my life feel balanced and right. However at times, unrealistic expectations may cause me to work feverishly toward my goals, believing that I can always do better.

While I busy achieving great things and making excellent impressions — as me bound to — I may also have an over-active inner critic chattering away in my head. This voice likely monitors both I actions and those of the people around me — and none too kindly. It may also point out people's faults and inconsistencies of character. Chalk this negative self-talk up to my acute attention to detail and try to quiet it whenever possible. It is a good thing to have benchmarks that I can measure life by. At the same time, focusing on these criteria too closely can lead to disappointment when things don't measure up. By learning to harness the most positive aspects of my idealistic tendencies, I can learn to embrace others' differences and celebrate their successes. Know that I can accept people's weaknesses — even my own — without having to abandon my moral character or strong sense of values.

Like everyone, to some extent my personality has been shaped by past experiences. One reason I may identify with Idealists, Enneagram Type 1, is if I received any heavy criticism from authority figures during my childhood. If this is the case, my personality may have developed so that I try to "be good" to avoid being a disappointment or getting into trouble in the future. Another possibility is that as a child I may have been encouraged to take on the kinds of responsible roles usually held by adults. This kind of situation could have created an inner pressure to perform well, as well as an expectation that I should always be capable beyond my natural level.

How my type work for or against me.

When I feeling my best, I probably experience a sense of oneness with others and understand that, really, everything is perfect — or at least perfect enough — just the way it is. I may also become aware that although it normally seems that there is only one proper way to do things, there are actually many correct paths. At these times, I can sense that life isn't always about what's right and wrong. Sometimes it's just about appreciating what's different. In this positive and open state, I can realize my full potential.

However, I aren't likely to be at my best every day. During the times when I feeling my worst, I may become angry or guilty about not having reached my own high standards. I may also grow to resent others' successes or to feel dissatisfied with the state of my own life. At times when I started to give up on myself, I may notice myself becoming clumsy or careless. I may also make even more mistakes. In critiquing these errors, I create an even lower opinion of myself. Know that this kind of downward spiral is caused by a belief that I must be "good," or even perfect, to be worthy of love. By possessing such a worldview, I can try endlessly to be correct and proper and endlessly fail because there is no such thing as complete and total perfection in life.

How can I avoid feeling my worst and start feeling me best? Above all, have compassion for myself. Try to recognize when I being overly critical and stop talking myself down. When I recognize that the world isn't perfect and that me aren't either, I can breathe easier and accept myself the way me are. It will also help I to practice acceptance and forgiveness of others. Finally, allow myself time to relax and play. I likely discover that me can be happy and productive without always needing to steadfastly focus on my goals.

Compatibility in love

As a Type 1, The Idealist, I typical strategy when looking for love likely involves making myself as worthy of love as possible. To do this, I can make continued efforts to meet myself-imposed standards regarding what is appealing and acceptable. In essence, I try to be as good as me can be. I want any date of my to know what a prize they have discovered. I may attempt to do this through elaborate pre-date grooming rituals that help me look my very best. I may also focus conversation on my accomplishments and successes. At times, these methods will work like a charm. When they don't, I likely to feel a bit rejected.

At times when I feeling unloved, I might blame myself for not being good enough or hold resentment against others for not seeing how lovable me are. In a move toward greater self-acceptance, try to regard myself as a whole being, not someone divided into "good" and "bad" parts. Let myself feel worthy of love, despite I perceived faults. Realize that not all goals in life will be met. Things often work out in ways I didn't anticipate. Sometimes the results are better, sometimes worse, but most often they're just different. Try to embrace all these possibilities, especially as I looking for love.

Tested by Tickle.

p/s: another personality test and had been sit at early bird.